The world is crazier than most people know. But I know. I was a clinical social worker for forty years. I am a witness. I retired from social work to write about the sad, the mad, and the savage; with whom I have spent most of my life. I have decided to translate these stories into fiction, because, as a co-worker once said, "You couldn't make this sh*t up. No one would believe you."

Tuesday, February 1, 2011

Collect Those Kudos, Man, and Hang On Tight

Monday I did an interview for an internet broadcast, the "Get Inspired Project." ( The subject was...can you guess?...inspiration. This project is just launching its second year, this year focusing on boomers. So there I was.

I told them inspiration is the fire within. I told them grandiose thinking is good for people, negative thinking is safe but puts inspiration in a cage. I told them regrets are a waste of time. I told them all kinds of blah, blah, blah.

Then she asked me about success. I remembered the moment I got up the courage to read my first review. And I learned:

  • Successes are precious. They keep the bogey man Negative Thinking away.
  • Cherish them like fine diamonds. Bring them out and fondle them often.
  • Collect them. Get out there and get as many successes as you can.
How to do that? Example: a friend of mine rescued a dog on Christmas eve and I wrote a story about it. I send it to the local Albuquerque paper and they loved it, plan to publish it next Christmas in the special animal section that comes out on Fridays. A small success, yes. But when the assistant city editor of a large city newspaper says she loved the piece, that is a kudo.

I have a weird essay on religion I may just send to the Atlantic. What the hell. And maybe I'll write some pieces for the Albuquerque paper, why not? And every little success is a crown jewel that I will keep in my mind's eye forever. 


  1. It's so easy to doubt oneself. So a little recognition now and then keeps the fires burning

  2. Hi Jane: I know that essay on religion and have read it often; I think it would be yet another of your successes should you decide to send it to the Atlantic. What a perfect match it would be. Dare ya, dare ya.......

  3. I love the idea of remembering successes. So often one goes back to the regrettable things in life, without thinking of the good times.
    Even if it's the smallest experience that gave you a moment of happiness, it may be enough to tempt you to try and achieve that dream; keep believing. :-)

  4. @ NP: how true it is, ain't it? :) And thanks, as ever, for the encouragement
    @Lian: Okay, you're on
    @Heart: It' so true, must be human nature. We tend to remember the painful stuff, and forget the goodies. This may be good for survival, but completely crummy for the soul :)

  5. Congrats! Sometimes I lack the motivation to keep going and usually it is my friends that keep me going. I don't know how they do it but time and time again they do. That recognition is awesome! It must make you very proud of what you have done.

  6. Thanks, Marc. When you feel your spirits sagging, call a friend, remember something you were proud of, whatever it takes; keep on going. We all have kudos somewhere; just don't forget them!