Love and the Modern Life Span
I may get killed for this post. But here goes:
People live a long time, getting longer every day. Our children will probably live to be 125 or so. Most of us boomers, if we take care of ourselves, will live to 90 and beyond.
So what happens to love, when you live so long? Is your true love still true after fifty years? Do you want to be married to the same person for 80 years? What if people change and grow, have more than one career, get into lifelong learning? Will they still be compatible? And should people marry in their twenties? That means being married to the same person for a hundred years.
About half of all marriages end in divorce. We can blameour cultural narcissism, the “me” generation, lax sense of loyalty; and we would be right. But does time have something to do with it too?
In a hyper stimulating world, can two people be in love after fifty years? Should they be? And can middle aged people still want to be in love? Can they find love? Is love becoming a serial thing? Maybe marriage, too?
In Arthur C Clarke’s book, Childhood’s End, marriage was taken out in 5 or 10 year contracts, renewable if desired. Maybe that’s not such a bad idea. Maybe I want to try my hand at new love at 65 or 70, for the thrill, for the boost it gives to living, and maybe that’s not a bad thing. Maybe my partner does too, and separation need not be hateful. Maybe in a long life, one has many lover-friends.
Personally, I would love the rush. Most people would.